“Kyle, how do I get OVER a girl?”
[Usually followed by paragraphs upon paragraphs of explaining the situation that can be summed up in one word: whipped.]
But, it’s still a valid question. It’s just the story behind the question that is irrelvant almost every time.
The first step towards realizing the issue at hand is to know that you CARED too much. Women are soft creatures. They care greatly about something in that moment, and they live moment-to-moment.
For example, my first girlfriend told me constantly in the moment how much she was in love with me.
And in another moment she told me the spark was gone and wanted to go put another dude’s D down her throat.
It was in those MOMENTS that she FELT that.
So if you felt more stronger about her than she did about you, that’s the first warning sign. How do you avoid feeling stronger?
Easier than you think.
Just have shit going on. It’s really that simple. Have a business you’re building, a fitness goal you want to shatter, or hell, even a mistress. Doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it’s something that IS. NOT. HER.
Again, to reduce feelings = care less = keep busy.
Yes, it’s hard to imagine something as simple as being obsessed in and love can be solved with something as simple as “keep busy”, but it’s the truth and nothing but da truth.
Do you understand what this means?
It means that no matter what, you basically control your destiny with women.
As long as you care less. Yes, it might require you being a bit of a jerk and blowing her off once in a while, but trust me – it’s what keeps the waterfall falling.
You. Have. Control.
You are not at girl’s mercy like mainstream advice would have you believe.
Not at all.
So, if you’re truly ready to murder your obsession with a girl and move on to bigger and better:
Keep causing Trouble,